Feb 17, 2018

Counselor's Corner: Being Polite - When Manners Don't Matter

Micro-Aggressions revolve around Intention and Impact. In too many scenarios there is a dismissive and callous approach to stereotypical statements, racial jokes, and obvious offensiveness.

Yesterday in Target a lady and a man waved at my son. He did not wave back (which is unusual for him I usually have to remind him not to talk to strangers). They continued to wave and being behind us in line I did not see the harm in him saying hello back. I said "Can you say hi? They said hi to you."

He looked me deep in my eye and said: "Mommy, I don't want to."

I went against my better judgment of listening to my child and opted for politeness.

I said, "You know I realize we don't talk to strangers, but mommy is right here and you do not want to be rude."

He said hi to the man and lady. The man was awesome, jovial, kind. He seemed grateful for the casual and light interaction while he waited for his purchases to be added to the conveyor belt. 

The woman gave a slight sneer (Being a therapist I am trained to notice all body language, whether I tell you or not, I see what you do not say.) She cocked her head to one side and said. "You know you have awfully curly hair."

My son said nothing but stared at her blankly.

I began to feel my heart race. I thought "Oh no!"

She continued "Your hair is different than hers." She pointed towards me. I narrowed my eyes and hoped that telepathically she would hear me telling her to stop talking. She continued. "Her hair is straight so whoever did you (emphasis on you) get that head full of curly hair." Her voice dripped with sarcasm and falsehood. She continued to get closer to him as I continued to pull the cart away. I knew that if she put her hand in his hair (which her nonverbal movement symbolized) I would not know how to handle it.

As you all know we celebrate our differences in my family, but this woman was not right! Her attempt was to belittle and shame. I finally felt my voice begin to speak.
"In our home we value differences and we have a multicultural family." I then turned to my son and said "I should have listened to you when you said that did not want to talk...sorry sometimes mommy gets it wrong."

"Why did you not want to talk to her." I asked.

He said "Mommy she was definitely a stranger and she was dangerous."

I obviously still have a lot to learn.

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Feb 16, 2018

The Risk of Musculoskeletal Problems in Mothers

Brought to you by Vive Health 

As a mom, you know that nothing whatsoever will hinder you from wanting to give the best care and quality of life to your family. Being a multi-tasker who has to juggle a lot of daily responsibilities, it’s not surprising for moms to be at risk of suffering from musculoskeletal injuries.

Knee Pain

Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or a career woman who has to hustle her way in an office, you are at risk of suffering from knee pain. Knee pain is usually a manifestation of a knee injury such as patellar tendinitis, knee bursitis, and knee osteoarthritis.

Although these injuries may result from a direct blow to the knees, they are often attributed to repetitive movements involving the knee joint such as walking up in an incline, using the stairs, and carrying a heavy load. An excess in body weight, often due to obesity and pregnancy, is also a risk factor for these conditions.

Rest is an important management for knee pain caused by overuse. You can also apply an ice pack to the affected knee to numb the pain and reduce the swelling. Refrain from carrying your baby in your arms for the meantime. As an alternative, you can place your baby in a stroller or you can ask your husband to do the babysitting while you are in pain. Wear a knee brace for additional support and stability.

Hand Pain

Hand pain usually manifests in the wrists and fingers. Mothers who regularly use their hands in doing chores such as washing the dishes, chopping ingredients, pulling out weeds, gardening, and washing the laundry are at risk of joint pain in these areas.

The common causes of painful wrists and finger joints are arthritis, wrist tendonitis, and De Quervain’s syndrome (also known as the washer woman’s syndrome). Pain in these areas can make accomplishing daily tasks difficult. Resting the painful hand is usually recommended as these conditions are commonly caused by repetitive strain, constant gripping, and a forceful bending on the joints.

To manage the pain and reduce the swelling, you can apply a cold pack to the affected area. You can also take anti-inflammatory medicines as prescribed by your doctor. Wearing a supportive brace to be used while carrying out daily tasks is also recommended for mothers who cannot afford a rest day.

Neck and Shoulder Pain

Neck and shoulder pains are common, especially in nursing mothers, and are exacerbated by improper body mechanics when holding the baby. If you are a first-time mom, you can experiment with various breastfeeding positions and find what is comfortable for you.

Moms generally prefer the cradle hold position wherein you hold your baby across your chest. Using the arm on the same side as the nursing breast, support your baby’s weight and tilt him towards you, tummy to tummy. Sit up straight on a chair and rest your elbow on the armrest with your baby’s head nestled in the crook of your elbow.

Aside from neck and shoulder pain, breastfeeding your baby and bending over to pick them up repeatedly can lead to rounded shoulders, also known as the mom posture. To manage neck and shoulder pain and prevent rounded shoulders, correct your posture by wearing a posture corrector. You can also perform stretches and exercises for posture correction. Do not forget to use proper body mechanics when doing your daily activities.

Heel Pain

Mothers who go to work wearing high heels are at risk of suffering from heel pain. This condition is medically referred to as plantar fasciitis. This condition is characterized by pain and inflammation of the ligament at the base of your foot caused by frequent pounding and repetitive stress. Carrying your baby in your arms the whole day can likewise put stress on your plantar fascia ligament.

To manage this condition, ensure that you rest your foot from time to time. If wearing high heels to work is non-negotiable, opt for a footwear with a wide platform. Instead of stilettos, wear wedges. Do simple stretching techniques and apply a warm compress to relieve the tension in your ligaments.

Aside from your baby’s cry, heel pain can also keep you up at night. As a mom, you need all the sleep you can get. Wear a night splint for plantar fasciitis to help alleviate your symptoms and improve your recovery time.

Although these ailments are somehow expected, it doesn’t mean that you should endure without doing something to prevent and manage these conditions. Note that the musculoskeletal system plays an important role in your mobility, flexibility, and balance. If you don’t address these problems early on through a healthy lifestyle and a proper diet, these might develop into severe forms of overuse injuries in later life.

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Feb 13, 2018

Healthy Ways to Mix Up Valentine’s Day

By: Grace Derocha, registered dietitian, certified diabetes educator and certified health coach at Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan

Americans spend an average of 400 million dollars on candy the week before Valentine’s Day. Despite the temptation to indulge in sweets and romantic gestures, there are many ways to celebrate this occasion in a healthy and budget-friendly way. Whether planning to spend Valentine’s Day with a spouse, family or friends, keep in mind some of these practical and memorable activities.

·         Cook A Meal: Though many people feel compelled to dine out on Valentine’s Day, the distracting, fast-paced experience can deter from meaningful interaction. What’s worse, restaurant servings tend to be two to four times larger than what’s recommended and contain 60 percent more calories than a homemade meal. Preparing a meal at home can save money, time and be an opportunity to bond with loved ones.

·         Unplug and Reconnect: Everyone in the family, including mom and dad, could use a break from screen time throughout the day to have face-to-face conversations. Cell phones and other devices are demanding of time and attention, so make a point to celebrate each other without screens. Believe it or not, focusing attention on talking with a partner can relieve stress, improve communication and create a deeper understanding for one another. Reading a book together, sitting down for a meal, playing a board game or going for a walk are a few simple and fun ways to reconnect.

·         Get in a Workout: Work up a sweat with a loved one this Valentine’s Day. Exercising with others increases motivation and makes the experience more enjoyable as both individuals decompress. Consider a sport or activity that neither person has done before, to enjoy a fresh and new experience together.

·         Try Something New: This romantic holiday is the perfect opportunity to visit a new place or try a new activity. Explore local businesses, museums, gyms and community centers. Breaking the normal routine can spark creativity, build confidence and help create lasting memories with loved ones.

·         Teach Each Other Something: Set aside time to share a passion, hobby or skill a spouse or loved one may not be familiar with. Learning from one another can be a special experience that brings people closer and improves communication through listening and learning. Over time, you can build on the tradition by learning something new together.

·         Volunteer: Celebrate in a unique way by giving back. Research shows that doing work for the community, environment and other worthy causes can ignite an individual’s sense of purpose while reducing stress. Take some time to research nearby charities or community events related to a personal passion and spend a few hours helping others with loved one(s).

Grace Derocha is a registered dietitian, certified diabetes educator and certified health coach at Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan. For more health tips, visit AHealthierMichigan.org.

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Ticket Sales to #EarlyMan to Benefit Paws for Life Rescue

See the animated film EARLY MAN - opens February 16th and tickets are on sale now!

#EarlyMan #FilmRaiser will be donating $1.00 per ticket to benefit Paws for Life Rescue! Please get tickets using this Fandango link to support this great organization that is saving the lives of animals every day.  (I am currently fostering four great kitties for this organization.)


$1.00 from every ticket to EARLY MAN bought during FEB & MARCH supports Paws for Life Rescue

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Feb 12, 2018

Guy Louis: World of Music: Meadow Brook Theatre - Children's Series

Guy Louis: World of Music

During the 45 minute world music concert by the renouned musician, Guy Louis, children will explore cultures from around the globe, see exotic instruments, and get a chance for a hands on participated in the singing and a rockin' musical "free-for-all".

Event Info

You can see Guy Louis: World of Music on Saturday, May 12th, 2018 at Meadow Brook Theatre (located on the Campus of Oakland University) at 1 pm.

MBT is a professional theatre located on the campus of Oakland University in Rochester, Michigan, just off I-75 at the University Drive Exit. That is Exit #79. For internet directions, the address is 207 Wilson Hall, Rochester, 48309.

Ticket Info

I am so thrilled that we are working with Meadow Brook to offer our fans a special discount for all of the shows in the 2018 Children's Series.

Simply contact LeeAnn in the Group Sales dept. at 248-370-3316 and mention “METRO DETROIT MOMMY” at the beginning of the transaction to get the discount.

Tickets for Guy Louis: World of Music are normally $10 (plus service fees), MDM fan price is just $8 each with a $5 handling fee per transaction, so for a family of four, you can attend for just $37 (4*$8+$5) compared to $59.50 through Ticketmaster.

Group Sales is open Mon – Fri, 9am-6pm

- The tickets need to be purchased in advance. The offer will not be available for online purchases thru Ticketmaster.com or for the day of show purchases at the Box Office.
- The discount cannot be applied to any previously purchased tickets.
-Discount not available via online purchase (ticketmaster.com)
-$5.00 Handling fee applies to each order (not per ticket)

Or purchase online at full price: Tickets for Guy Louis: World of Music  are $10 (plus service fees).

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Learning to Swim with Goggles, Without Goggles - Which is Best?

With Six Metro Detroit Locations to serve you in Canton, Novi, Sterling Heights, Troy, Auburn Hills and Farmington Hills.

When learning to swim, goggles can be a great tool for children to see underwater without the eye irritation that comes with exposing your eyes to pool water.  Children tend to progress in swimming skill much more quickly while wearing goggles due to the clarity of underwater vision and the comfort provided by protection from the pool chemicals.  Children who are newer to swimming may be hesitant to place their face in the water without goggles, but with them often gain confidence and the skill can also become fun.  

But it is also very important for your child to be able to swim without goggles too.  While learning to swim is a fun sport many participate in for leisure, it also serves as a lifesaving skill.  85% of drowning fatalities that involve children under the age of four are a result of accidental entry into a body of water (60% of these incidents are in swimming pools).  Should a child ever end up accidentally in a body of water, it is unlikely they will have goggles, so being confident in the water without them is critical.  

Of course, babies and young swimmers usually don't want anything to do with goggles, so it is best to skip the goggles altogether until children are comfortable wearing them.  Exposure to the water experience at a young age without goggles will provide a strong foundation for confidence in the water without them when they are older.  

Programs like  Aqua Tots Swim Schools of Michigan design their curriculum to teach children to swim with and without goggles.  It is important that children experience and become comfortable with the sensation of swimming without goggles so they don't panic if they fall or are pushed into a body of water unexpectedly.  Also, it is not uncommon for goggles to slip during competition racing, especially during pool entry.  In order to swim their best time, they would need to continue to swim without the aid of their goggles, rather than taking time to stop and fix them (which may lead to disqualification).  

In summary, it is best to utilize a method that allows your child to be confident in the water without goggles, in case of unexpected entry into a body of water.  Providing opportunities to swim with and without the use of goggles will lead to the safest and most effective swimming experience. 

More About Aqua-Tots

Teaching kids to swim has been the foundation of Aqua-Tots since they began. And today they still take special care to make sure their swim schools are a welcoming, comfortable and inviting place for kids of all ages at our Detroit area locations including Canton, Novi, Sterling Heights, Troy, Auburn Hills and Farmington Hills. Aqua-Tots Swim Schools of Michigan offers swim classes for babies, toddlers, infants, kids, swim team, adults, and children with special needs at over 70 locations worldwide. With never more than 4 students per swim class, this intimate setting provides a great environment for children learning to swim. Call to schedule your COMPLIMENTARY in water evaluation and tour today.
Troy 248-845-4545
Sterling Heights 586-844-3633
Novi 248-845-4544
Canton 734-828-2000
Farmington Hills 248-537-4004
Auburn Hills 248-537-4005

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Tummy to Toddler Expo is Coming to Warren

The epic Tummy to Toddler Expo will be held Saturday, April 21st, 2018 from 9am – 3pm at Macomb Community College South Campus

NEW for 2018 - FREE Admission for parents and children.  

This year's expo has a fantastic line up with fun events for parents and children including:

A FREE Kid Zone sponsored by Jump Around Moon Bounce Rentals of Fraser. This interactive play area for kids will host a bounce house, crafts, multiple story hour events, and balloon animals all for free. Face painting and tattoos will be available for an additional fee.

Parent/Infant Demonstrations.
Local sponsoring hospitals will be hosting hands-on demonstrations for parents throughout the day. Learn how to bathe your newborn, talk to a lactation consultant, learn about natural birth, child safety, Infant CPR and much more from experts. 

Lots of Vendors
Walk around, shop, learn, enter to win great prizes while visiting the many baby and family friendly vendors which include local women and children’s retailers, direct sales reps, health care providers, recreational and educational providers just to name a few.

Water Safety
Aqua-Tots will be conducting a water safety seminar for families. If you have a pool, go to the beach or lake, you will find this information useful! It could save your child’s life.

Attend to enter for a chance to win this year's Grand Prize Drawing with thousands of dollars worth of merchandise including a $500 Gift Card to Babies R Us and Medela On the Go breast pump.  Door prizes are awarded every hour. 

Character Meet and Greet:
Meet and greet Princesses and Superheros throughout the day compliments of Princess & Co of Madison Hts.

Great PresentationsMain Stage presentations are entertaining and educational.  This year's lineup includes great events like the Baby Crawl A Thon, a Jazzercise Demo, Music with Ms. Carissa, The Daddy Derby, and more.  

FREE Car Seat and Stroller Cleaning
Get your stroller or car seat cleaned at our FREE Car Seat and Stroller Spa while you wait provided by Greenway Carpets! Bring them in dirty ~ leave with them sparkling clean and fresh!

Get more information: http://tummytotoddlerexpo.com/

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