Oct 17, 2014

How to Build an Enduring Marriage by Karen Budzinski #bookreview #giveaway @kbudzin

Disclaimer: I have received a free copy of this book in exchange for this promotional post.  All opinions are my own.  Your experience may differ.


How to Build an Enduring Marriage, written by fellow Metro Detroiter, Karen Budzinski, is a book written just for women about how to improve their marriage (specifically with a man). Despite the specificity of the book, I think anyone could pick up the book and use it to improve themselves and their relationship with anyone {friends, family, children, parents, lover}.

I have to admit, there is a ton to digest in this book.  It has taken me quite a bit of time to read through it and I will likely come back to it over and over.  I rarely use a highlighter when reading, but this is one of those books where I did. There are a lot of great tips and words of advice in this book.  I am not quite sure every little bit will work for me, but most of it is exceptional.

Through the book, the message is strong, you are the only one you can change, so if you want to improve your marriage, you need to look in the mirror and change yourself.  It is somewhat of a conundrum, I totally agree that trying to enact a change in anyone other than yourself is a futile effort, but placing the responsibility of a relationship entirely on one person's shoulders is a bit unfair. However, it is hard to place blame on someone else, when you have a lot of work to do yourself.  Being the best person you can be has no negative (or negligible) side effects, so it is the best place to start.

The book is filled with strong Christian values and quotes from the Bible, so if you are not of the Christian faith and you can't put that aside, this would not be the book for you.  Being a Humanist, I personally struggled to be able to turn off the religious aspects of the book to begin with, but after reading through a few of the passages I was able to read the stories and appreciate their value and the morals they teach.

There are many generalizations and it seems as you read that the book might have been written in the 1920's, there is a lot to swallow.  Women should be responsible for cleaning the home, making dinner, rearing the children, etc.  A woman should be virtuous, beautiful, joyful, wise and content wife.  There is little mention of two working parents, but when Karen does address this, there is no exception.  That being said, what spouse wouldn't be thrilled to be able to come home to a loving wife and be able to enjoy their down time in whatever manner they choose?  Every traditional expectation is explained and after reading, it totally makes sense to me.

Overall, I have to say this book won me over.  There is a lot of great advice, tips, words to live by and so much more.  This book will not only help you with your marriage but relationships with everyone else.

How to Build an Enduring Marriage is available on Amazon.com.

Keep in touch with Karen here: 
www.betterrelationshipsnow.com
http://www.karenbudzinski.com/blogs/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/karenbudz
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipTools?ref=br_tf
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