#MomsWhoShine is a series about moms who have some kind of talent. The series was inspired by Dad of Divas Dads in the Limelight.
This week we are featuring another Metro Detroit Mom, Karen Budzinski, writer, blogger and relationship expert.
My name is Karen Budzinski. I look at life as a GIFT: that is why we call it the “present.” I love people and believe that everyone has a story to tell, a love story to write, and several roles to shine in. I love to pull greatness out of others even when they may not have even been aware that it was in them. I love encouraging others through my blogs: http://www.raisinggodsrewards.blogspot.com and http://www.marriagevitamins.com (new blogs have now moved to http://www.karenbudzinski.com/blogs/).
Tell me about your family.
I married the love of my life in November 1981. I love instruction books, manuals, and recipes, but found there weren’t any to keep our relationship as amazing as I wanted it to stay. So one month after I got married, I gathered 50 women and began teaching (and learning about!) building better relationships. In 1984, we had our first child, in 1985, our second, in 1986, our third, in 1988, our fourth, and in 1989, our fifth (yup, 5 children in 5-1/2 years, with one miscarriage thrown in there ).
I kept teaching the building better relationships class upon request and recommendation, with new people being added regularly. Thirty-three years later, I compiled the best of the best information I had taught together and put it into a book, workbook (to live it out), and teacher’s edition so others would do what I did: lift the standard that would ultimately lift them! (For more info on the book and to order, see http://www.betterrelationshipsnow.com.)
My children added even more amazing children for me by marriage. They constantly amaze me at all they do to impact their homes and world as: Missions Leaders, Missions Owners, Dentist, Hair Stylist, Administrative Assistant, Business Leaders, Engineer or in Sales. On September 11, our new grandson was born! So we now have three amazing granddaughters and an amazing grandson, PLUS three more grand babies due December, February & April!.
What is a normal day in your home like?
What “normal” USED to be like homeschooling for six years was more like a sitcom. Now, I’m up at dawn, getting my devotional time, exercise, and projects underway.
What is the most rewarding thing about being a mom?
It is incredibly rewarding to see lives entrusted to your care to nurture, develop and train, and then to see amazing people take their talents, strengths and even their weaknesses and use them to impact the world. The bond you have and the history you have with your children is something that is rewarding from the time you discover they are growing inside you until the time you leave the world. The impact you can have in your children’s lives and then your grandchildren’s lives is incredibly awe inspiring. The delight I have in my children, and how from the moment they were born I was inspired to be the best I could be so I could be the best parent possible, inspires living to new heights.
What is your biggest challenge of being a parent?
I feel every pain each of my children and their spouses feel. I wish I could fix every problem for them and run ahead and take all the rocks out of the roads they travel.
How do you find balance between being a mom, working and having time for yourself?
I never underestimate the value of a minute, and I try to be reasonable and realistic in what I expect a break to be. I realize that when I am juggling various balls, I may have to let go of some to hold onto others, but the situation will change. I tweak and change things up constantly to address the ever-changing demands, and I try to live out my priorities.
What are some of the lessons you’ve learned since becoming a Mom?
I’ve learned that when you say “no” to some things, you are really saying “yes” in disguise to other things. I learned not to allow others to press me into a mold or do things to accommodate others when my family needed to be a priority. I also learned that if my children were going to learn to be “givers” and contributors in society, they had to learn that by giving, and not being professional takers. I made many opportunities from them from age two upward for them to be part of giving to different people: nursing and senior homes, cancer support groups, and grandparents and family.
What is the best advice about being a parent you have received and who gave it to you?
Live, love, laugh and leave a legacy. Learned from Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Successful Families book. Be fully present and fully alive, and live every day of your life. Learned from Tim Storey, missionary, and from my mom.
What advice would you give to other moms?
Never never never wish any time away. Each age and stage has its own good things and bad things tied to it. Enjoy each and every stage and soak it up because it is too soon passed and you will be wishing it back!
Work hard at making and living the life and love you want to live. Throw good seeds everywhere and the harvest will surely grow. Channel your energies into the things that will yield the most growth: avoid timewasters. Give give give and surely it will always come back to you, plus you will know that you contributed wonderful things to help others through.
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Thank you Karen for taking the time to answer our questions:) Are you a Mom Who Shines or know a mom who would be great for this series? Email me their contact info at firstname.lastname@example.org